It is, unfortunately, common for adults to experience anxiety. In my experience, low self-esteem causes a lot of the anxiety that people struggle with today. Counselling is an excellent way of controlling anxiety and improving your self-esteem, which means that you may never experience problematic anxiety again!
There are often complex reasons why you might have low self-esteem; this can make it challenging to deal with on your own. Both self-esteem and anxiety work on a feedback loop. Unfortunately, this means that they often get worse over time. The very nature of having low self-esteem and anxiety can make it difficult to talk to friends and family about how you're feeling. When you can speak to family and friends, sometimes their well-intentioned attempts to help can make you feel worse.
Over several years, I studied many different approaches to counselling, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Person-Centred Counselling and Psychodynamic Counselling.
My own experiences with having low self-esteem, anxiety and depression meant that I was able to take what I was learning and use it on myself. I kept hold of the stuff that worked and integrated it into a cohesive approach to counselling.
Counselling with me has three main processes:
First, we need to understand why you have low self-esteem. We're not just born with either high or low self-esteem; it develops as we grow. You have developed low self-esteem for a reason, and it is essential that we understand why.
Second, very early on in counselling (usually in the first session), we will start working on reducing the amount of anxiety that you're experiencing. We will do this partly through discussions during sessions and partly through techniques and exercises that you can use between sessions.
Third, we will start increasing your self-esteem. It is by increasing your self-esteem that we are working to stop you from experiencing problematic anxiety again in the future.
We will work together in a friendly, supportive and collaborative way. You will never be judged or criticised by me. Counselling is a highly confidential activity focused on helping you.